Meltdown – we all know that toddlers have them.
We all know that babies cry and scream – but we try to pretend that it is not normal to have a meltdown when we are adults. We try to hide it and mask it or numb it. We zip it up and put it in the box and let no one ever see it, we bottle it up inside and pretend like “we are all good”….
In the meantime, it’s not like life’s up’s and downs stop at a certain age. Yes we learn how to manage our emotions better and we learn how to express them by talking about our emotions, but if you grew up by being shamed by having emotions, and were told all the time not to cry and not to have them, then really did you learn how to express them in a healthy way? Or are you just winging it, yeah most of us are probably just winging it.
So, I am here to tell you. It is normal, to have meltdowns. It is normal to cry, to be sad, to be angry. Those are normal human emotions and we should not feel ashamed having those emotions.
We all have different chemistry and make up, we process things different from human to human. We process things from our own perspective, not from anyone else’s. So no one else can tell you how you should feel. If you feel sad about something, feel sad, embrace it, process it, write it down, tell a friend, let it go through you.
Sometimes things don’t hit me, until way later. Sometimes things don’t hit me until I have a moment to myself. Those things can often be not even things that directly happen to me but to someone we know or even on TV or in the media. So that is why we also need to get clear on what we are exposed to, but that is a different topic.
Past week made me really think about this topic, I had a meltdown on Saturday, and I was very ashamed that I dared, that I dared to cry. And I could not first figure out why was I feeling this way, I am sure it had something to do with hormones, don’t we always blame everything on our hormones, I am sure there is some truth to it, but there has to be truth to the fact that we are also humans, and not robots?
I started thinking to myself, why am I so emotional, so I went back a week in my head and started thinking about what happened. Besides having a stressful week at work, and normal life happenings, there was also a major event that affected me in such a huge way. A local teenager drowned, he was a son of my ex-coworker, and my son knows him as well. It was a tragedy and besides such sorrow that I felt myself, I also had to explain it to my son and help him process his emotions. During the week, I really was not able to take a moment to do that, so it all came crashing down on Saturday.
It is not always a tragedy that makes us feel emotions. It can be small little things, and I am here to tell you it is normal. So feel it up, be happy, be sad, be angry, be mad – after all we are humans and it’s OK
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart”